Just as delicate as topics involving single mothers and single fathers are, the question of whether marriage is an achievement has proven to be one of the most fragile discussions one can engage in. Often, addressing such topics is like walking on eggshells; it’s nearly impossible to navigate without causing some discomfort.
First and foremost, an achievement is typically defined as something accomplished successfully through effort, sacrifice, or skill.
Regardless of the type of marriage—whether same-sex or heterosexual—many people aspire to be married and live happily ever after at some point in their lives. It’s a common goal, and if realized, it can indeed be considered an achievement.
Whether or not marriage is an achievement is somewhat subjective. It’s subjective because anyone who does not put effort into achieving marriage shouldn’t expect to attain it in the first place.
For two people to marry, both must invest effort and sacrifice to achieve the common goal of marriage. If this effort leads to a successful marriage, it’s reasonable to consider it an achievement. After all, navigating courtship and tying the knot involves significant commitment.
Is Marriage an Obligation?
The answer is no.
This is where the confusion often arises: distinguishing between an achievement and an obligation. For instance, staying alive requires breathing—this is a natural obligation.
In contrast, succeeding in various aspects of life, including marriage, is optional. You can choose to marry or not. So, how can someone who hasn’t put in the effort to marry claim that marriage is an achievement? This is where divergent views further complicate the debate.
Not everyone will or must marry. Some people don’t marry because they haven’t found the right partner, despite their search. Others may marry but later separate for various reasons. Does this mean that marriage isn’t an achievement?
The debate is indeed endless, but in most cases, confusion arises from mixing up the concepts of obligation and achievement. Most people who put in effort and sacrifice to achieve something will rightfully view it as an achievement.
